Good men are out there, but you might be wrecking your chances of meeting them. “Why can’t I find a good man?” is a question that has been asked by women around the world.
It’s true: decent human beings of the male gender are rarer than ever in the dating scene. If you’ve gone on dating sites like OkCupid or Tinder, it’s very easy to just start believing that good men just don’t exist anymore.
The truth is that there are decent men out there — at least, statistically so. Dating is a numbers game, and the numbers are saying that there’s a high probability that there will be men out there who would love to date and marry you.
However, that means you need to find them. If you’re looking for a man who will be good to you, a large part of your ability to succeed deals with you maximizing your chance to find one.
Whether they try to do it or not, many women end up self-sabotaging when it comes to finding a nice guy to date. If you’re making any of these mistakes, you are hurting your own chances of finding Mr. Right.
Here’s why you can’t find a good man:
1. Having a “type” and refuse to deviate from it
A lot of people tend to assume that they can only date a certain “type” of person but that often leads to them ignoring good people who might actually be better for them.
While there’s nothing wrong with standards, refusing to date people based on things like their height or the music they listen to might be a sign you’re being too picky.
2. Aggressively pursuing any man that comes your way
Desperation is not sexy, sweetie. I totally understand wanting a man with all your heart and feeling rejected. However, actually getting aggressive in your pursuit of one never works, except when it comes to attracting users and abusers.
Good men don’t want women who will take anyone, and if you were honest with yourself, you probably wouldn’t want a guy who would take anyone, either. Tone it down a notch!
3. Refusing to go out
This one always bugs me. How are you going to meet new people if you don’t go out? Most of the time, online dating doesn’t yield good results. In fact, a third of all men on those sites are already in relationships.
Your best bet is to meet someone in person, so go out and have fun.
4. Acting like a diva
Expecting your date to treat you with respect is a given and it’s totally reasonable. What isn’t reasonable is expecting a man to shower you with presents every single date, pay for everything, and also put up with temper tantrums.
If you act like a diva, don’t be shocked if men eventually get sick of it and bail because that’s definitely why you can’t find a good man.
5. Trying to date while hating men
If you’ve ever gone on a date with a woman-hater, you already know how uncomfortable that makes you. Believe it or not, men can pick up on bad vibes, too, and it makes them just as uncomfortable as it makes you.
If this sounds like you, you might need to take a break from dating.
