If they’re not trying to use you, they will find a problem in everything you do. Nothing’s ever going to be good enough for them, and you never seem to do anything right.
They make you doubt yourself. You never see them celebrating any of your achievements, because it’s not that big a deal. All they add to your life is negativity, and it’s your fault that you allow them to do so.
How so? Because these are the kind of people, you attract. You choose who stays in your life and who doesn’t. It’s your behavior towards people in general that makes people treat you the way they do.
Below are 7 things that draw toxic people to you:
1. You’re too good of a listener
You realize how important it is to be heard, so you give people the attention you’d like to be returned. This may be great for the one talking, but not all that good for you at times. They’d be rambling on, without allowing you to give any sort of input. An incessant talker would ignore all the polite ways you’d try to end the one-sided conversation, leaving you no way out.
2. You always find time for the people in your life
Being as busy as everyone is, the most appreciable thing one can do is to make time for others. It’s nice to know that someone values you enough to do so. But be careful with who you spend your time with. Being too generous can make toxic people take you for granted.
3. You don’t hesitate in sharing your dreams with people
People who want to be someone, do something or get somewhere are admirable indeed. They inspire people, but at times they attract the toxic kind. When you’re spiritedly talking about your dreams with them, they’re secretly thinking the worst of you. It may root from envy or insecurity, but they’re going to bring you down, in all possible ways.
4. You’re pretty mellow
You’re the kind of person no one has trouble getting along with, no one at all. You’re easy to approach and you can turn around any situation in minutes. You’re level headed and deal with things in the best way possible. Where most people love your company, some are going to take advantage of your easygoing nature.
5. You’re mostly in good spirits
Who doesn’t love a smiling face? No one. You’re bound to attract people if you’re always cheery and tend to be the center of attention everywhere you go. You kind of bring life to the party. While many may appreciate that, others would just want all that for themselves.
6. You’re all for reconciliation
Even when you’re not the one directly involved in a dispute, you just can’t stand it and would do everything you possibly can to sort things out. And if you are in fact a part of it, then you’d do anything to settle the matter. Normally, people appreciate such gestures and value you for the things you do. On the other hand, peace is boring to some people.
7. You choose to see the best in everyone
You try surrounding yourself with good people, and are successful at that because of the kind of person you are. At the same time, you have the heart to accept the shortcomings of people as well. You tend to look past them, and focus on the good things. Even when subject to the worst kind of behavior from such people, you just don’t give up on them.
