A pregnant 20-year-old lady who is in a polyamorous relationship with four men is planning to raise her baby with all her lovers.
Tory Ojeda who lives with her partners in Jacksonville, Florida, began the polyamorous relationship three years ago.
The mum-to-be who is seven- months pregnant met one of her partners Marc, 18, in high school and then got into a relationship with Travis, 23, two months later.
Back in July, she announced her engagement to Travis before falling in love with their long-term mutual friend Ethan, 22, and Christopher, 22, who is the baby’s father.
Speaking to Barcroft TV, she said: “Chris is the biological father. We just know that because of timing and when the approximate conception date was.
“Based off of the approximate conception day, we had been on vacation. So it was only us.
“But as far as I guess, socially goes, we’re all raising the baby together, so everyone’s dad.
“We’re all very, very excited to be raising a baby together.”
During the interview, she also said her boyfriends are “welcome” to pursue other people if they wish to.
“Honestly, I would love it if somebody found a second partner.
“Dividing time and figuring out schedules between all five people and making sure everyone feels included, it’s kind of difficult.
“I’d like to not be the only woman in the relationship. That would definitely be nice.”
On how they get intimate, she said they all have their own bedrooms but her partners “swap in and out” of her bed, each night, making sure each of them gets an “equal turn” in spending the night with her.
On the issue of jealousy, Ethan said: “There are a couple of healthy ways to deal with it. Primarily just talking to each other.”
She added: “There’s always going to be like little moments of jealousy, it does take a certain amount of restraint and just getting relaxed. I will say it helps if you know the person.”
Reflecting on his own experiences in his current relationship, he said: “Seeing [Tory] with Ethan was a lot easier because I was friends with him.
“Her and Chris was a bit dicier at first, there was a lot more jealousy and I’ll openly admit that. The same goes for Marc because I’d never interacted with them.”
When asked how he feels about sharing the responsibilities of being a father, Christopher said: “It’s definitely a little interesting.
“I grew up with the idea of you know, one dad, one mum. But there is a lot of support between all of us dads and it’s something we can tag team.
“We always joke about the idea of getting stack in an endless loop of go ask your dad.”
On what her family and friends think about her relationship, Tory said: “Most of my friends know all my partners and they love us and think that we’re cute and such. My family is kind of quiet about their disapproval.
“Polyamory is definitely an uncommon thing.
“A lot of people have grown up in monogamy culture of, you don’t really love someone if you have eyes for somebody else.”
Christopher added: “My family is slowly coming around to the idea. The pregnancy has helped with that. But at the very beginning, I know my mother and father were hesitant about it.
“Her main concern was that she didn’t like the idea of me having a partner who was not fulfilled with me alone.”
However, Ethan’s family are “very active” in their support, along with Tory’s older brother, Alistair.
Alistair said: “I will admit that since I’m her older brother, that I just have that tendency I suppose to be protective.
“I’m more so concerned that she’s happy, that she is in a relationship where they both love each other mutually or in this case more people love each other mutually.
“I don’t see anything wrong with Tory’s relationship.”
On the reaction, she gets from people about the bizarre relationship, she said: “We definitely get weird looks”
“I’ve had people just say rude comments when we’ve just been hanging out at a fast food place.
“I’ve been called a hoe more than once.
“Maybe in our future, we might see it become a common thing where people don’t bat an eye on it anymore at all. One can hope.”
