People tend to end up with a selfish partner because they crave intimacy so much, they’re willing to do all the emotional heavy lifting.
Psychologists warn that one-sided relationships take an enormous toll on a person’s emotional and physical health that results from constant stress and anxiety.
If your inner voice gives you warning signs, you need to stop and critically assess your relationship.
We wants to remind you that love is a two-way street, and we have prepared a list of warning signs that your partner is not as invested in the relationship as you are. Here’s a list of them below:
1. You always initiate plans for the both of you
If you don’t text or call them, you can go several days without contact. And even then, all you get back are dry responses that leave you feeling like you’re distracting them from something important. In addition, you plan every date and stress about keeping them entertained, like somehow just being together isn’t good enough.
2. You feel like you don’t really know your partner
They’ve never opened up about their past or asked you for advice after a difficult day at work. Your conversations are usually very surface-level and feel like the ones you might have with a casual acquaintance. So how do you plan on spending the rest of your life with this person if you don’t know their true character?
3. You’re afraid of being yourself
Do you often feel like you can’t share problems with your partner and do you always play a role? Most likely you’ve found a middle point in your personality and mood that appeals to them and you stick to it. You don’t feel comfortable being sad or vulnerable around them because they’ll instantly get annoyed and tell you to “get over it.” Remember, they don’t deserve you at your best, if they’re not there for you at your worst.
4. You put their needs above your own
When you’re together, you only do what they want. They pick the movies, the restaurants, and they don’t care about your interests. With time, you start adopting their personality and telling yourself that whatever they want to do is cool with you. No. If a person truly loves you, they want to support your hobbies and do the things you enjoy without calling it a “compromise.”
5. You’re always making excuses for them
Do you often find yourself feeling uncomfortable about your partner’s behavior in front of your friends or family? Have you ever said, “Oh, they’re in a bad mood today,” or something along those lines? It’s likely that you see your partner’s true reflection in the eyes of people who are close to you. You think they feel bad for you, so you want to prove them wrong.
6. You constantly feel emotionally drained
Making plans for the both of you and keeping them entertained is truly exhausting. No wonder you’re stressed, you give so much without getting anything back. You think that maybe if you plan an amazing getaway, or give them a gift they’ve always dreamt about, you’ll finally get something in return. And when it never happens, you feel disappointed and let down.
7. You feel the need to apologize when you shouldn’t have to
Do you often feel guilty and not understand why? Your partner might be a master gaslighter and turn every conflict against you. If you’ve ever apologized for getting too emotional around them or taking a load off your mind, then this is not a healthy relationship. Equal partners don’t treat each other that way.
