A Nigerian writer, Chinaza Ada Igbo has shared thoughts on the aftermath of pouring away the wine a father of a bride blesses during a traditional wedding in Igbo land.
According to Chinaza, the marriage is destroyed because the blessings the father of the bride spoke into the wine is also poured out. She stated that the “decrees” are not mere words, but a powerful declaration from a father whose daughter is entering a new home.
She wrote;
When you pour away the wine (Nkw?) your father in law (bride’s father) released heavy loads of blessings in for a peaceful and fruitful marriage between you and your wife, replacing it with juice or malt, what do you expect? Of course you destroyed the very marriage yourself that very day of your traditional marriage by pouring those decrees away, oh you think it’s a mere word, it was a powerful declaration from a father whose daughter is entering a new home, he gives the daughter and husband words of blessings from the depth of his heart, that is why you both ought to drink it happily to show that you accept those blessings! But no you’re afraid the wine may be poisoned, oh religious mindset, it has destroyed and still destroying homes!
Our ancestors are wise, in everything they do, there are reasons why it’s done so, but you won’t ask questions, because you’ve been made to believe that your culture is evil… The earlier you wake up to reality, the better for you…
Teta n?, saa anya g? ka ? h? ?z? (wake up, shine your eyes and see)
For those of us that knows xup, nd? na at? nz? with pride, t?wa n? nz? with no apology!
As? m na Nkw? taa ga akw?nye any? ihe ?ma o ji b?a, Iseee iseee iseee!!!
