A guy comes over to you at the bar and says, “You have a really gorgeous face.
If your boobs were bigger, I’d totally ask you out.” Wait, what? While part of you is flattered by the compliment, the rest is eager to slap him for insulting you.
Welcome to negging. This is when a guy uses insults to bring down a woman’s confidence but combines them with flattery so she sticks around.
Here are 7 ways to deal with it:
1. Walk away
Don’t throw your drink in his face even though he really deserves it because it will just give him a reaction. Sadly, for guys who are desperate to gain a hot woman’s attention, both positive and negative reactions appeal to them. By just ignoring it and walking away, you leave him wondering what you really thought of his comment.
2. Target his insecurity
If he’s really rubbed you the wrong way, you could go ahead and be insulting back, but do it smartly. Guys who resort to negging are usually ones who lack confidence, and you will probably see why really easily. Use that against him. So a response to the above neg could be, “Really? You’re too short to date me, honey.”
3. Don’t fall for it
Some people claim negging is a seduction technique. Hell no. It’s not because he likes you, so don’t fall for it. It’s really done because the guy is trying to manipulate you.
4. Don’t engage in conversation
A part of you might want to ask him what the hell is wrong with him or show him that you’re hurt, but this is what he wants. He gets to keep you chatting to him for longer if you end up having a chat about your feelings. You don’t need to understand why he’s acting like a jerk. You just need to get away from the loser.
5. Remember that he can’t make you feel insecure
If he’s negging you, he wants you to feel insecure about something so that he gets the upper hand. But remember that he can’t do that because he has no power. You’re a queen – he’ll never throw you off your pedestal. Show him your sexiest smile, the one he’ll never see again, before you head to the dance floor to have some real fun. Show him what he’s missing.
6. Don’t show him you’re insulted
Even if you decide to insult him back, do it in a casual way. You don’t want to show him you’re angry because he’ll thrive on this or make you angrier by calling you uptight.
7. Roll your eyes and sigh
Show him that he’s pathetic with your body language. It’s the sigh that says, “Really? That’s the best you can do?”
