Marriage gets really monotonous after a point, especially when it comes to sex. When you stay with one person for the rest of your life, sex can get really boring and basic.
Keeping the spice and spark alive in marriages becomes a necessary aspect that all couples should pay heed to.
Couples should focus on reigniting the fire in their sex life as physical intimacy is pretty vital in retaining a relationship.
Here listed are some of the changes all married couples should definitely make in their sex life.
1. Fix a time for sex
If you and your partner never seem to have time for sex, then you need to schedule a time for sex! This may sound very unromantic but this can get you and your partner’s sex life back on the road. When you schedule time for sex, other things won’t disturb you as you will have your mind focused on this.
2. Don’t chase after sex
Don’t think of sex as something to chase after. If your partner isn’t interested in sex and you are, then avoid chasing your partner for sex. Let them want sex on their own instead of you asking them repeatedly for the same. Your partner may feel overwhelmed at times and that can be a big reason why your partner is avoiding intimacy time.
3. Stop focusing on sexual penetration
Sexual penetration shouldn’t be the ultimate goal between you and your partner. Focus on foreplay, oral sex and simple kissing and touching. Including foreplay in your sex routine can be a great way to make sexual penetration much easier because it induces a lot of lubrication that makes sex painless and much more enjoyable.
4. Go for date nights
Date nights are indeed very important for couples to keep the spark alive in their marriage. When it’s a sexy, fun and spontaneous date night, a couple may feel aroused and sensual. Environment plays a big factor in stimulating feelings and arousal in men and women.
5. Take control
Sometimes, it’s better to take control if your partner hasn’t been initiating sex as often. Take the lead and don’t be demoralised if it doesn’t lead to sex. Even a step counts and it’s alright if there are only baby steps. But it is necessary to be in control of your sex life and have a voice in your marriage.
6. Practice being affectionate
You and your partner should practise being affectionate as it can bring back the lost intimacy in the marriage. When you both touch, grab or kiss randomly, you both are allowing yourselves to be open to foreplay and sex. This can be incredibly satisfying and fulfilling. You and your partner may find the lost spark in your marriage, romantically and sexually.
