If a guy you really like suggests a casual relationship, you might be wondering what’s going through his mind.
You certainly want to know what he’ll be expecting from the arrangement before you go into it so you can be prepared and tailor your behavior accordingly — that is, if it’s actually something you want to do and are okay with.
Here’s what most guys want out of casual relationships.
1. He wants no commitments
Guys look for casual relationships because they don’t want anything serious. Maybe he’s still recovering from his last relationship and is not quite ready to go all-in again. It could also be that he’s scared of commitment and instead of facing the issue head-on and working to get past it, he’s taking the easy way out.
2. He wants to have fun hookups
Sometimes a guy just wants to be able to go about his life without having to deal with distractions or emotional responsibilities. He just wants to be able to hit you up every now and then and get together for some hot, no-strings-attached sex. If he’s feeling extra nice, he might treat you to a meal before getting down to business. To him, what you have is purely physical and nothing more.
4. He wants to be friends with benefits
You get to hang out and spend quality time together, talk about your lives, drag each other to parties, have amazing sex, and cuddle afterward, but it doesn’t go beyond that. He likes you and considers you a friend, and he’ll show up for you when he can. He’ll happily do all kinds of favors for you, but you won’t be getting the girlfriend title.
5. He wants to be free to date other people
A man might suggest a casual relationship because he’s seeing other people or he wants to keep his options open in case someone else comes into the picture. Maybe he doesn’t think you’re the perfect woman for him or he’s not ready to quit playing the field yet. By keeping it casual, he can still explore his connection with you until he finds a woman he wants to commit to or till he’s ready to get serious with you.
6. He wants you not to get jealous or clingy
The last thing a guy wants from a casual relationship is for feelings to get in the way. You shouldn’t get jealous when you see him with other women and you certainly can’t get clingy on him. This means no calling or texting him all the time to know where he is or how his day went or even to tell him you miss him. You’ve got to suppress the jealousy or desires if they come up.
7. He wants zero emotional responsibilities
A casual relationship means that he won’t have to check in with you before doing anything. He can party late into the night with his friends, travel out of town at a moment’s notice, or do anything he pleases without having to explain himself to you. He can go days or weeks without texting or calling you and be assured that you won’t make him feel bad about it. He doesn’t want to feel like he owes you anything.
