When you imagine yourself greeting your guests at your wedding, would you be surprised if your ex-partner turns out to be one of them?
Well, the decision of inviting your ex-lover to the most important day of your life needs to be taken carefully.
You are the only one who needs to take the call of whether to invite him or not. Here are a few things you must think about before coming down to any conclusion.
Think about these
First of all, think why do you want to invite your ex-partner to your wedding? Are you guys just friends and there are no romantic feelings involved? Or, you still have a soft corner for him or her? Do you want to invite and make him or her jealous by any chance? Just take your time to think about your feelings and invite your ex-lover only for the right reasons.
How would your ex react?
Before inviting your ex-partner, you should also consider his or her feelings as well. Would the person be comfortable or would it come as a shock? It’s best to maintain your distance if he or she is still nursing a broken heart and the news of your marriage will only worsen the matter. Remember, you might have moved on from your past but the other person might still be trying to make peace with the situation.
Talk to your partner
Once you are clear that you and your ex-partner are just friends, it’s the ideal time to have a conversation on this topic with your fiancé. Be upfront and explain logically why you want to invite him or her to the occasion. Assure your partner that you will go ahead with this only if he or she is completely okay with it.
If the answer is ‘no’
Take a step back if you sense your partner is getting uncomfortable during this conversation. He or she might not be willing to say a clear ‘no’ but you have to respect your spouse’s feelings. It is the most important day of your future husband or wife’s life as well, and your decision can ruin it all.
What about your family?
Everyone should be happy with your decision. If your mother hates your ex-partner or you think your father would raise his eyebrows seeing him or her chatting with you, you might want to reconsider your decision.
Be prepared for this
Here comes the most important point. By taking this decision, you are also somehow encouraging your partner to think about inviting his or her ex to the wedding as well. Would you be comfortable with that? Be prepared to have a conversation on this topic and make sure you don’t overreact.
The verdict
It’s simple, you must go ahead with the decision only if you are really good friends with your ex-partner and there is not even an iota of romantic feelings between both of you. In case you had a fling or casual relationship with your ex-partner and the person didn’t matter much in your life, your wedding would be an equally happy occasion without his or her presence as well.
